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The Eternal Winter and Bored Out of my Mind

Ok, I’m sure I’m not the only one who has felt like this has been an eternal Winter. I live in the Northeast and we have been hammered with snow and freezing temperatures. I think the rest of the country has had a tough time, also?

Spring is taking its sweet time to get here (though it looks like this weekend will be nice) and I feel like my toddler and I have been stir crazy! We can only play with the same toys so many times..

We got creative and went to play gyms, played in the snow, and did a lot of arts and crafts, but it was difficult to do things all the time, especially during the snowstorms and because money is tight. I can’t help but feel bad. I feel bad because her mind should be challenged more. I’m a huge advocate of being outside as much as possible, but even I had to resort to cartoons here and there. I’m not saying down time isn’t good sometimes- it’s nice to relax and do nothing when the mood strikes, but there has been a bit too much vegging out.

I’ve always wished and entertained the idea of living near a beach because the nature and imagination there is endless and beautiful. I follow @yoga_girl on Instagram and her little baby is living the life down there in Aruba. Constantly hanging out on the beach and enjoying all aspects of being outside. My poor lady has been begging to play outside, but the temperatures have been painful.

I wonder if I’m living in the right area of the world. If it weren’t for my family and friends, I wouldn’t be able to really think of a reason to stay here in this NYC suburb. Should I think about moving? But then we’d have to start over with jobs, friends, daycares, etc. It seems more work than it’s worth… I think.

I’m probably just lacking Vitamin D and sunshine and going a little stir crazy. I’m sure once Spring and Summer roll around, I’ll be fine. Plus, if we moved, I’d really miss seeing the Fall… I think it’s just mom guilt kicking in and feeling like I can’t provide enough resources for my toddler to really explore. But I’m trying my best. Has anyone been struggling this winter too??

❤️ ☀️

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Glow Like a Surfer Girl ☀️

Am I the only one who has a strange wish to be a healthy, glowing, Hawaiian surfer girl? Their skin always looks so… quenched. Lol.

Anyway, with winter coming and our forced air system getting ready to dry up our skin, I was hoping to see what everyone’s home remedies are for dry, flakey alligator skin. 🐊

I’ve tried a humidifier, lathering myself in coconut oil, and going through an entire stick of lip balm a week and still get pretty crocodiley … So I would love to hear other ideas 😄

In the meantime, I highly suggest the brand Kopari. They make natural products with coconut oil that smell amazing and keep you sun kissed throughout the winter. ☀️ (Not endorsing the brand, just generally love it and suggesting it highly!). They are a bit on the expensive side in my opinion, but I love how the smell brings me right back to summer 🌊

Anyway, wishing everyone a moist winter (sounds strange, but you know what I mean)!

 

 

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Don’t Roll your Eyes at me! (The story of how I was just Mom-shamed)!

So just a quick background for those of you who haven’t read my previous threads…

I lost about 70 pounds a few years ago (yay)! I went from drinking and eating way too much to running a full marathon. I watched Doctor Oz religiously every day and learned about how to literally treat my body like a temple. I’ve grown to absolutely love nutrition and health (I may even want to go back to school for it… but that’s for a later post). It’s a true passion of mine.

So in the midst of this adventure, I naturally started to steer myself toward organic foods, natural cleaning products, and natural makeups/cosmetics. In my opinion, I think cutting out these chemicals as much as possible in the things that we consume/apply every day will hopefully add up and make us feel better and avoid disease in the long run.

Side note: Please purchase this book if you are also interested in healthy living and how the small things add up in the end. It features my favorite guy and is truly a life saver 😎

Anyway, now like I said, I love healthy living, but I’m also a proud consumer of potatoes and beer 🍻 🥔. I love my wine and eating out with my friends. It’s not like I have to eat healthy all the time.

However

When I go to the supermarket, I definitely try to get as many things all natural and organic as I can.

Yes, I could save money on less expensive items- I know that and I will switch if I financially need to. Yes, I know that the whole organic thing could be a scam and over exaggeration. I also am aware that you can eat healthy, avoid chemicals, the whole 9 yards and die anyway…

But It’s what I like and enjoy.

Anyway, to my point.

I had just put all my items on the conveyor belt at the supermarket the other day (yes, the majority were healthy) and a mom of four adorable girls behind me starts rolling her eyes and sighing while staring right at my 15 month old daughter in the front of the cart.

She looks directly at my daughter and in a “mocking voice” speaks right to her as if I wasn’t there and says, “Oh, you have one of those healthy, good moms who actually cares about her kids. One of those moms who thinks buying organic foods will buy your love”.

Like, I don’t even know what that means.

She giggled at the end of the sentence and winked as if that was to excuse her rude behavior.

I’m not sitting there rolling my eyes about the coke and doughnuts she bought her kids. (Just kinda jealous about the Coke).

My whole point is: STOP THE SHAMING.

In every way.

We are all going to make different decisions. Enjoy different things. Do things in completely opposite ways.

But can we please start appreciating these differences?

Accept and appreciate the differences OR mind your own beeswax 😘😃

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How Did you All do it???

Within the next month or two, I hope to…no…I WILL transition from a full-time working mom to a part-time or full-time stay at home mom.

I’ve never really been a “career woman”, but have always had to work because of bills. You know how it goes.

I’ve had an especially hard time because I used to be a nanny and I feel like I’ve raised those 3 children more than my own daughter. I hate that I have to drag her out of the house every morning, both of us exhausted, just to drop her off to strangers. Don’t get me wrong, I really like the daycare, but.. it’s not… ME.

So anyway, I’m currently emotionally and financially trying to plan for the change and I need advice!! What are ways to save on bills, save money, etc.? Keep in mind, our finances will be TIGHT on one income so I don’t care how minute/silly the advice may seem.

I’m excited about this journey and change, but I need all the help I can get 🙂

Also, this book has helped a lot for anyone else in the same boat!

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Appreciate the Sky this Weekend!!

Take time out of the hectic craziness that is your life for just five minutes this weekend and appreciate how beautiful the sky is..

I guarantee it will help relax you!

To all the moms and dads… regardless if you are working moms, stay at home moms, 80 hour per week dads…you are all doing such a great job!

The sky will give you five minutes of zen that you deserve …

Then get back to cleaning that mess!!

🙂

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Any other moms (or dads) out there lose a ton of weight??

So most of my life I was lean and athletic. I was All-State, MVP, etc of my sports teams in high school and college. I love the competition and the feeling of adrenaline that playing sports/working out gives me. I was so in shape, I could have been G.I. Jane…

The second half of college and the year following college, I completely fell off the wagon. I was living with my boyfriend who was 10 years older than me and a handful of his frat boy-like friends (that man is my husband now lol).

Every night was another party, drinking, and drunk snacking on Slim Jims.

Many vodka and cranberries later, I was a mess. Large, unhealthy, out of control, and extremely insecure.

After months of “I’ll work out tomorrow”, I finally put my sneakers on and began working out and eating right. Long days of grueling workouts, boring salads, and religiously watching Doctor Oz led to me losing 70 pounds! I even ran a full marathon after months of training.

I felt on top of the world. More energy than a toddler playing with finger paint, stronger than I’ve ever been before-I was back!

and now…

I just don’t care.

I’ve put on baby weight with my daughter, but lost some of it so I’m not huge- I’m just … normal.

I work out like 3 times a month and walk here and there.

Most of the food I eat is healthy and organic, but there is still crap sprinkled in on occasion.

While I would like to fit back into my old jeans, I just don’t have any motivation to work my ass off like I did before. I’m not happy with my body, but I’m not too unhappy with it either.. 

Every day I think of how awesome I felt during my weight loss journey and how I want to get back there, but… whatever… too much work…

Please tell me I’m not alone! Anyone else lose motivation entirely? How in the hell did you get it back?

 Check out this book from the man that helped me lose the weight 🙂

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Stay at Home Mom’s Don’t Contribute to Society??

I’m a full-time working mom. I’m an Office Manager of a very upscale dental office. I’m great with numbers, insurance claims, and calming people down about the doom that is their impending root canal.

Unfortunately, while I like what I do, I don’t want to be doing it (I’m working on becoming a part-time or all-the-time Stay at Home Mom).

I always thought being a mom, especially one that could stay home and raise her children full-time, was the biggest definition of success.

That’s why it caught me off guard when one of the doctors at my job told me if I didn’t choose to go back to work after maternity leave, I wouldn’t be contributing to society.

Um … what? Did this mom of 3 just say that out loud?

I didn’t have a chance to rebut because the office was busier than Grand Central Station.

My mom was a stay at home mom. Not by choice, but because she was permanently disabled after a picnic table was thrown at her by a mentally disabled patient at her job.

She loved her job. She wanted to work. She didn’t want to get hurt.

Yet, it was a great blessing in disguise. She was my Girl Scout leader and brought us all camping in the woods. She was at every one of my volleyball games. She spent the summers with my brother and I at the beach.

She did MORE than contribute to society. She was there to raise two kick ass children. Two children who are loving and caring and empathetic. Two children who donate their time and money to charitable causes because we were taught that helping others is the right thing to do.

Success and “contributing to society” does not mean being a doctor (or dentist). Success does not mean being a millionaire. Success (to some) doesn’t even mean being a parent. Success is different to everyone.

So if I decide to give up my career to be with my daughter, I feel in my heart that what I’m doing goes far deeper than selling my soul to the 9-5 grind.

Good job to all the working moms… Applause to all the stay at home moms… Good job to all the non-parents…

No matter how you spend YOUR time, spend it the way you want…

and not how society wants you to spend it…

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Moana’s Grandma

Let me tell you, Moana’s Grandmother is my spirit animal…  🌊

As silly as it is, is it weird I want to live more like her? Lol. Just constantly being in touch with nature and just going with the flow…

My daughter woke up way early today and insisted we go outside to play by 6am (I love that she loves being outside, but we are still recovering from sickness so a little sleep would have been preferable). Begrudgingly, I put my flip flops on, made my coffee and brought her out. Then, I immediately looked up to the sky and saw a jaw dropping sunrise.

Suddenly, I thought, “I have to wake up and see the sunrise every day!”.

My daughter was dancing in the sunlight (for all of 15 minutes before she wanted to go back to sleep 😂). It was such a great start to the day.

Sometimes, you just have to remember to look at the sunrise (or sunset if that’s more your thing) and it instantly grounds you. It makes you feel unstoppable yet so minute and unimportant at the same time. Not to mention, it sets an awesome tone for the rest of the day.

So if any of you are having a tough morning, day, week, or year, take a minute to look into nature. Be “the village crazy lady” and dance with the waves here and there.

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Rough Weekend…

Summer sickness?? What is this nonsense?! 😷☀️

Fourth ear infection for my 15 month old and a sinus infection for me.

I can’t remember the last time I was sick during the summer. Missed out on fun summer plans this weekend which was a bummer, but I got to snuggle with my little lady so it was secretly a win.

I’ve been having a rough month or 2. I’m feeling the guilt of having to work a new, full-time job and leaving my daughter in daycare more than ever. My husband and I wake up early in the morning, rush out the door, work all day, and then rush home. I feel like we are constantly on the go and we don’t get to just enjoy each other anymore.

I think the toughest part for me is that I used to be a full-time nanny so I feel like I’ve raised other children more than my own. It’s a sucky feeling.

So the doctor told me yesterday that she may need to get tubes put in her ears if the ear infections keep coming. He also said daycare is most likely the culprit.

I know daycare has done wonders for her social skills and learning, but I just wish I could have her go one or two days instead of all the time.

Am I putting too much pressure on myself? How are you working moms handling the guilt and constant rush-like schedule? Do you stay at home moms wish the kids were in daycare?

Any input and chatter would be fun so we can see both sides!

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Introduction on How to do Everything 😉

Welcome to my blog, everyone!

This is it. This is the place where us moms (and dads too- we don’t discriminate!) come together to discuss how in the actual Hell we are supposed to do everything.

Like literally everything. 🍷

My daughter is 15 months old and she is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that I wish I could spend much more time being with her than in the office… ✏️

Unfortunately , the office is the place that funds the things I want to do with my daughter. 💰

So how are we supposed to live fulfilling lives filled with love and travel and play when we are stuck in the 9-5 grind? When the house needs to be cleaned and dinners cooked? When the little one is sick with her 738th ear infection?

Well, I’m not too sure yet… 😯

…but I’m determined to figure it out. Each day, little by little, I will get closer to my goal of “doing it all”, while not going insane.

This blog is for anyone who wants to play more and work less. Love more and worry less. Travel more and stagnate less.

It’s possible…

✌️