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Ok…for real…How?!

Ok, I must ask an extremely important question that has been weighing on my mind for several months and driving me crazy…

how on earth do you pay your credit card debt off if you have no money to pay said credit card debt off????

I recently just started part-time work in order to be home with my daughter more and so far, I’m loving it. I’m much less stressed and I feel refreshed each work week after a long, relaxing (kinda) weekend. But I’m trying to educate myself and do research on how to make ends meet on a much lower salary and every article I read is like…

duh… just pay your credit cards off. 

Ok, cute idea. Totally get it: start debt free to have less monthly bills and a better grasp on your finances. But how exactly are you all doing it??

Should I be using most of my savings to pay said debt off? Seems like an easy fix, except when I have no emergency funds, that seems like a scary solution.

I’ve cut down on so many things- Cut a day of daycare out, reduced cable bill, switched phone companies, cook more in bulk, clipped coupons, etc…

… but still thousands away from being debt free…

I hate the idea that all of this interest is being paid from my pocket.

So PLEASE. 

Tell me your ways…!!!

 

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Glow Like a Surfer Girl ☀️

Am I the only one who has a strange wish to be a healthy, glowing, Hawaiian surfer girl? Their skin always looks so… quenched. Lol.

Anyway, with winter coming and our forced air system getting ready to dry up our skin, I was hoping to see what everyone’s home remedies are for dry, flakey alligator skin. 🐊

I’ve tried a humidifier, lathering myself in coconut oil, and going through an entire stick of lip balm a week and still get pretty crocodiley … So I would love to hear other ideas 😄

In the meantime, I highly suggest the brand Kopari. They make natural products with coconut oil that smell amazing and keep you sun kissed throughout the winter. ☀️ (Not endorsing the brand, just generally love it and suggesting it highly!). They are a bit on the expensive side in my opinion, but I love how the smell brings me right back to summer 🌊

Anyway, wishing everyone a moist winter (sounds strange, but you know what I mean)!

 

 

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Can’t Believe It’s Happening!

Sorry for the writing hiatus. Between my brother moving to Colorado, going to Florida to celebrate my 30th birthday, and all the fall activities in full swing, it has been hard to find time to sit down and write.

If you aren’t familiar with my blog or the last few posts, I’ll do a quick recap. Basically, I am a full-time working mom who lives in New York who just wants to spend more time with my daughter (mom guilt to the max). Of course other things are thrown in like travel, wine, and the beach haha.

With that being said, I have good news… I just got asked to start a new job in two weeks that is part-time!!!  I’ll only be working 3 days a week so I will get to be home more with my 17 month old!! Soooo excited.

But…. also nervous.

I have the normal butterfly jitters about telling my current position tomorrow that I’m giving them 2 weeks notice. It’s never fun, even when I’m so excited about the new journey to come. But such is life and it must be done…

I’m mostly nervous about the money situation. I will obviously be making less because of the cut in hours. Life and bills will still be doable, but it will be tight. So many great bloggers have offered advice on how to cut down on spending and I’m fully ready to try all those amazing things, but it is still nerve wracking. I just keep thinking, “What if it doesn’t work?”, “What if my decision sends us to the poorhouse?”.

I’m fully aware this is probably a bit dramatic and an over exaggeration, but I’m still shaking in my boots. I’m hoping I’m doing the right thing…

How do others handle such huge transitions in life? Were you nervous beforehand and felt like you were making the wrong decision? Any advice for a little side hustle?

Looking forward to hearing 🙂

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My Brother is Moving Tomorrow…

Sad day. Very sad day.

We had a goodbye dinner tonight to wish my brother well as he and his girlfriend prepare to move to Colorado tomorrow (we live in New York). They are super outdoorsy and love hiking and want to get some amazing experiences in before they settle down. I get it. I would do the same if I were in his shoes. It doesn’t make it easier though.

He’s 5 years younger than me. My only sibling. We had a great childhood together. We spent most of our time on the beach. If not at the beach, we were playing catch outside with a baseball.

We would fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but at other times, we would gang up against my parents when they were being “annoying”.

We used to have a “night club” where we would sing songs and play with toys in our bedroom after out parents told us it was time to go to sleep. We had to share a bedroom until I was 9. I hated it then. Not so much now.

He will probably move back home eventually (at least I hope). His girlfriend says if they get married and have kids, they will definitely come back to be close to family. But what if they love it there? 

The hardest part is that my daughter’s favorite uncle is moving away. One of her role models. She might grow up not even remembering who he is (she’s only 15 months right now).

Leaving dinner tonight, my grandma sobbed as she said goodbye to her grandson. The 5th grandkid out of eleven. I couldn’t watch her cry. I had to walk away.

I’ve always been the tough one in the family. The rock. The stable one. The one people lean on in hard times. The unshaken one. I don’t know if that will be me tomorrow. 

I’m sorry for the Debbie downer post. I’m usually optimistic and happy, but it’s really hard to be that right now. I know it’s good for him. I know he’ll be happy and have the time of his life. I certainly know I’m jealous of all the mountains he will climb. I know all of these things.

I just don’t want my daughter to have to say goodbye tomorrow. That’s what’s killing me.

… but as always, I will trek on. And I will hope and wish every day for his return.

 

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Don’t Roll your Eyes at me! (The story of how I was just Mom-shamed)!

So just a quick background for those of you who haven’t read my previous threads…

I lost about 70 pounds a few years ago (yay)! I went from drinking and eating way too much to running a full marathon. I watched Doctor Oz religiously every day and learned about how to literally treat my body like a temple. I’ve grown to absolutely love nutrition and health (I may even want to go back to school for it… but that’s for a later post). It’s a true passion of mine.

So in the midst of this adventure, I naturally started to steer myself toward organic foods, natural cleaning products, and natural makeups/cosmetics. In my opinion, I think cutting out these chemicals as much as possible in the things that we consume/apply every day will hopefully add up and make us feel better and avoid disease in the long run.

Side note: Please purchase this book if you are also interested in healthy living and how the small things add up in the end. It features my favorite guy and is truly a life saver 😎

Anyway, now like I said, I love healthy living, but I’m also a proud consumer of potatoes and beer 🍻 🥔. I love my wine and eating out with my friends. It’s not like I have to eat healthy all the time.

However

When I go to the supermarket, I definitely try to get as many things all natural and organic as I can.

Yes, I could save money on less expensive items- I know that and I will switch if I financially need to. Yes, I know that the whole organic thing could be a scam and over exaggeration. I also am aware that you can eat healthy, avoid chemicals, the whole 9 yards and die anyway…

But It’s what I like and enjoy.

Anyway, to my point.

I had just put all my items on the conveyor belt at the supermarket the other day (yes, the majority were healthy) and a mom of four adorable girls behind me starts rolling her eyes and sighing while staring right at my 15 month old daughter in the front of the cart.

She looks directly at my daughter and in a “mocking voice” speaks right to her as if I wasn’t there and says, “Oh, you have one of those healthy, good moms who actually cares about her kids. One of those moms who thinks buying organic foods will buy your love”.

Like, I don’t even know what that means.

She giggled at the end of the sentence and winked as if that was to excuse her rude behavior.

I’m not sitting there rolling my eyes about the coke and doughnuts she bought her kids. (Just kinda jealous about the Coke).

My whole point is: STOP THE SHAMING.

In every way.

We are all going to make different decisions. Enjoy different things. Do things in completely opposite ways.

But can we please start appreciating these differences?

Accept and appreciate the differences OR mind your own beeswax 😘😃

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How Did you All do it???

Within the next month or two, I hope to…no…I WILL transition from a full-time working mom to a part-time or full-time stay at home mom.

I’ve never really been a “career woman”, but have always had to work because of bills. You know how it goes.

I’ve had an especially hard time because I used to be a nanny and I feel like I’ve raised those 3 children more than my own daughter. I hate that I have to drag her out of the house every morning, both of us exhausted, just to drop her off to strangers. Don’t get me wrong, I really like the daycare, but.. it’s not… ME.

So anyway, I’m currently emotionally and financially trying to plan for the change and I need advice!! What are ways to save on bills, save money, etc.? Keep in mind, our finances will be TIGHT on one income so I don’t care how minute/silly the advice may seem.

I’m excited about this journey and change, but I need all the help I can get 🙂

Also, this book has helped a lot for anyone else in the same boat!

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Appreciate the Sky this Weekend!!

Take time out of the hectic craziness that is your life for just five minutes this weekend and appreciate how beautiful the sky is..

I guarantee it will help relax you!

To all the moms and dads… regardless if you are working moms, stay at home moms, 80 hour per week dads…you are all doing such a great job!

The sky will give you five minutes of zen that you deserve …

Then get back to cleaning that mess!!

🙂

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Any other moms (or dads) out there lose a ton of weight??

So most of my life I was lean and athletic. I was All-State, MVP, etc of my sports teams in high school and college. I love the competition and the feeling of adrenaline that playing sports/working out gives me. I was so in shape, I could have been G.I. Jane…

The second half of college and the year following college, I completely fell off the wagon. I was living with my boyfriend who was 10 years older than me and a handful of his frat boy-like friends (that man is my husband now lol).

Every night was another party, drinking, and drunk snacking on Slim Jims.

Many vodka and cranberries later, I was a mess. Large, unhealthy, out of control, and extremely insecure.

After months of “I’ll work out tomorrow”, I finally put my sneakers on and began working out and eating right. Long days of grueling workouts, boring salads, and religiously watching Doctor Oz led to me losing 70 pounds! I even ran a full marathon after months of training.

I felt on top of the world. More energy than a toddler playing with finger paint, stronger than I’ve ever been before-I was back!

and now…

I just don’t care.

I’ve put on baby weight with my daughter, but lost some of it so I’m not huge- I’m just … normal.

I work out like 3 times a month and walk here and there.

Most of the food I eat is healthy and organic, but there is still crap sprinkled in on occasion.

While I would like to fit back into my old jeans, I just don’t have any motivation to work my ass off like I did before. I’m not happy with my body, but I’m not too unhappy with it either.. 

Every day I think of how awesome I felt during my weight loss journey and how I want to get back there, but… whatever… too much work…

Please tell me I’m not alone! Anyone else lose motivation entirely? How in the hell did you get it back?

 Check out this book from the man that helped me lose the weight 🙂