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The Eternal Winter and Bored Out of my Mind

Ok, I’m sure I’m not the only one who has felt like this has been an eternal Winter. I live in the Northeast and we have been hammered with snow and freezing temperatures. I think the rest of the country has had a tough time, also?

Spring is taking its sweet time to get here (though it looks like this weekend will be nice) and I feel like my toddler and I have been stir crazy! We can only play with the same toys so many times..

We got creative and went to play gyms, played in the snow, and did a lot of arts and crafts, but it was difficult to do things all the time, especially during the snowstorms and because money is tight. I can’t help but feel bad. I feel bad because her mind should be challenged more. I’m a huge advocate of being outside as much as possible, but even I had to resort to cartoons here and there. I’m not saying down time isn’t good sometimes- it’s nice to relax and do nothing when the mood strikes, but there has been a bit too much vegging out.

I’ve always wished and entertained the idea of living near a beach because the nature and imagination there is endless and beautiful. I follow @yoga_girl on Instagram and her little baby is living the life down there in Aruba. Constantly hanging out on the beach and enjoying all aspects of being outside. My poor lady has been begging to play outside, but the temperatures have been painful.

I wonder if I’m living in the right area of the world. If it weren’t for my family and friends, I wouldn’t be able to really think of a reason to stay here in this NYC suburb. Should I think about moving? But then we’d have to start over with jobs, friends, daycares, etc. It seems more work than it’s worth… I think.

I’m probably just lacking Vitamin D and sunshine and going a little stir crazy. I’m sure once Spring and Summer roll around, I’ll be fine. Plus, if we moved, I’d really miss seeing the Fall… I think it’s just mom guilt kicking in and feeling like I can’t provide enough resources for my toddler to really explore. But I’m trying my best. Has anyone been struggling this winter too??

❤️ ☀️

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Ok…for real…How?!

Ok, I must ask an extremely important question that has been weighing on my mind for several months and driving me crazy…

how on earth do you pay your credit card debt off if you have no money to pay said credit card debt off????

I recently just started part-time work in order to be home with my daughter more and so far, I’m loving it. I’m much less stressed and I feel refreshed each work week after a long, relaxing (kinda) weekend. But I’m trying to educate myself and do research on how to make ends meet on a much lower salary and every article I read is like…

duh… just pay your credit cards off. 

Ok, cute idea. Totally get it: start debt free to have less monthly bills and a better grasp on your finances. But how exactly are you all doing it??

Should I be using most of my savings to pay said debt off? Seems like an easy fix, except when I have no emergency funds, that seems like a scary solution.

I’ve cut down on so many things- Cut a day of daycare out, reduced cable bill, switched phone companies, cook more in bulk, clipped coupons, etc…

… but still thousands away from being debt free…

I hate the idea that all of this interest is being paid from my pocket.

So PLEASE. 

Tell me your ways…!!!

 

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Spread the Word!

It’s that time of year…

…the time to give to others who are less fortunate. Well, that should be every time of year, but you catch my drift.

The doctors at my new job decided to help People to People and “adopt a family” this year. I wasn’t too sure what that meant or what to except when I went to People to People on my lunch break last week.

I walked in and there were huge binders full of letters from almost 800 families explaining why they need help, their financial woes, and most of all, how they wish they could afford holiday gifts for their children. Each letter had a wish list attached from all the children whose parents could not provide them their wants (dolls, legos, etc.) and their needs (beds, underwear, coats).

As I sat there sobbing, I couldn’t figure out how I was supposed to choose only one family and I kept wishing I was rich enough to “adopt” them all.

Because that is obviously not a reality, I figure the best thing I can do is spread the word to have others hopefully go check out their local People to People (or another similar organization).

My daughter and I gathered some clothes for our “adopted family” on Thanksgiving morning and I knew right then and there that this would be our yearly tradition…

I hope you can do the same…

😊

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Can’t Believe It’s Happening!

Sorry for the writing hiatus. Between my brother moving to Colorado, going to Florida to celebrate my 30th birthday, and all the fall activities in full swing, it has been hard to find time to sit down and write.

If you aren’t familiar with my blog or the last few posts, I’ll do a quick recap. Basically, I am a full-time working mom who lives in New York who just wants to spend more time with my daughter (mom guilt to the max). Of course other things are thrown in like travel, wine, and the beach haha.

With that being said, I have good news… I just got asked to start a new job in two weeks that is part-time!!!  I’ll only be working 3 days a week so I will get to be home more with my 17 month old!! Soooo excited.

But…. also nervous.

I have the normal butterfly jitters about telling my current position tomorrow that I’m giving them 2 weeks notice. It’s never fun, even when I’m so excited about the new journey to come. But such is life and it must be done…

I’m mostly nervous about the money situation. I will obviously be making less because of the cut in hours. Life and bills will still be doable, but it will be tight. So many great bloggers have offered advice on how to cut down on spending and I’m fully ready to try all those amazing things, but it is still nerve wracking. I just keep thinking, “What if it doesn’t work?”, “What if my decision sends us to the poorhouse?”.

I’m fully aware this is probably a bit dramatic and an over exaggeration, but I’m still shaking in my boots. I’m hoping I’m doing the right thing…

How do others handle such huge transitions in life? Were you nervous beforehand and felt like you were making the wrong decision? Any advice for a little side hustle?

Looking forward to hearing 🙂

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Don’t Roll your Eyes at me! (The story of how I was just Mom-shamed)!

So just a quick background for those of you who haven’t read my previous threads…

I lost about 70 pounds a few years ago (yay)! I went from drinking and eating way too much to running a full marathon. I watched Doctor Oz religiously every day and learned about how to literally treat my body like a temple. I’ve grown to absolutely love nutrition and health (I may even want to go back to school for it… but that’s for a later post). It’s a true passion of mine.

So in the midst of this adventure, I naturally started to steer myself toward organic foods, natural cleaning products, and natural makeups/cosmetics. In my opinion, I think cutting out these chemicals as much as possible in the things that we consume/apply every day will hopefully add up and make us feel better and avoid disease in the long run.

Side note: Please purchase this book if you are also interested in healthy living and how the small things add up in the end. It features my favorite guy and is truly a life saver 😎

Anyway, now like I said, I love healthy living, but I’m also a proud consumer of potatoes and beer 🍻 🥔. I love my wine and eating out with my friends. It’s not like I have to eat healthy all the time.

However

When I go to the supermarket, I definitely try to get as many things all natural and organic as I can.

Yes, I could save money on less expensive items- I know that and I will switch if I financially need to. Yes, I know that the whole organic thing could be a scam and over exaggeration. I also am aware that you can eat healthy, avoid chemicals, the whole 9 yards and die anyway…

But It’s what I like and enjoy.

Anyway, to my point.

I had just put all my items on the conveyor belt at the supermarket the other day (yes, the majority were healthy) and a mom of four adorable girls behind me starts rolling her eyes and sighing while staring right at my 15 month old daughter in the front of the cart.

She looks directly at my daughter and in a “mocking voice” speaks right to her as if I wasn’t there and says, “Oh, you have one of those healthy, good moms who actually cares about her kids. One of those moms who thinks buying organic foods will buy your love”.

Like, I don’t even know what that means.

She giggled at the end of the sentence and winked as if that was to excuse her rude behavior.

I’m not sitting there rolling my eyes about the coke and doughnuts she bought her kids. (Just kinda jealous about the Coke).

My whole point is: STOP THE SHAMING.

In every way.

We are all going to make different decisions. Enjoy different things. Do things in completely opposite ways.

But can we please start appreciating these differences?

Accept and appreciate the differences OR mind your own beeswax 😘😃

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How Did you All do it???

Within the next month or two, I hope to…no…I WILL transition from a full-time working mom to a part-time or full-time stay at home mom.

I’ve never really been a “career woman”, but have always had to work because of bills. You know how it goes.

I’ve had an especially hard time because I used to be a nanny and I feel like I’ve raised those 3 children more than my own daughter. I hate that I have to drag her out of the house every morning, both of us exhausted, just to drop her off to strangers. Don’t get me wrong, I really like the daycare, but.. it’s not… ME.

So anyway, I’m currently emotionally and financially trying to plan for the change and I need advice!! What are ways to save on bills, save money, etc.? Keep in mind, our finances will be TIGHT on one income so I don’t care how minute/silly the advice may seem.

I’m excited about this journey and change, but I need all the help I can get 🙂

Also, this book has helped a lot for anyone else in the same boat!

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Appreciate the Sky this Weekend!!

Take time out of the hectic craziness that is your life for just five minutes this weekend and appreciate how beautiful the sky is..

I guarantee it will help relax you!

To all the moms and dads… regardless if you are working moms, stay at home moms, 80 hour per week dads…you are all doing such a great job!

The sky will give you five minutes of zen that you deserve …

Then get back to cleaning that mess!!

🙂

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Stay at Home Mom’s Don’t Contribute to Society??

I’m a full-time working mom. I’m an Office Manager of a very upscale dental office. I’m great with numbers, insurance claims, and calming people down about the doom that is their impending root canal.

Unfortunately, while I like what I do, I don’t want to be doing it (I’m working on becoming a part-time or all-the-time Stay at Home Mom).

I always thought being a mom, especially one that could stay home and raise her children full-time, was the biggest definition of success.

That’s why it caught me off guard when one of the doctors at my job told me if I didn’t choose to go back to work after maternity leave, I wouldn’t be contributing to society.

Um … what? Did this mom of 3 just say that out loud?

I didn’t have a chance to rebut because the office was busier than Grand Central Station.

My mom was a stay at home mom. Not by choice, but because she was permanently disabled after a picnic table was thrown at her by a mentally disabled patient at her job.

She loved her job. She wanted to work. She didn’t want to get hurt.

Yet, it was a great blessing in disguise. She was my Girl Scout leader and brought us all camping in the woods. She was at every one of my volleyball games. She spent the summers with my brother and I at the beach.

She did MORE than contribute to society. She was there to raise two kick ass children. Two children who are loving and caring and empathetic. Two children who donate their time and money to charitable causes because we were taught that helping others is the right thing to do.

Success and “contributing to society” does not mean being a doctor (or dentist). Success does not mean being a millionaire. Success (to some) doesn’t even mean being a parent. Success is different to everyone.

So if I decide to give up my career to be with my daughter, I feel in my heart that what I’m doing goes far deeper than selling my soul to the 9-5 grind.

Good job to all the working moms… Applause to all the stay at home moms… Good job to all the non-parents…

No matter how you spend YOUR time, spend it the way you want…

and not how society wants you to spend it…