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The Eternal Winter and Bored Out of my Mind

Ok, I’m sure I’m not the only one who has felt like this has been an eternal Winter. I live in the Northeast and we have been hammered with snow and freezing temperatures. I think the rest of the country has had a tough time, also?

Spring is taking its sweet time to get here (though it looks like this weekend will be nice) and I feel like my toddler and I have been stir crazy! We can only play with the same toys so many times..

We got creative and went to play gyms, played in the snow, and did a lot of arts and crafts, but it was difficult to do things all the time, especially during the snowstorms and because money is tight. I can’t help but feel bad. I feel bad because her mind should be challenged more. I’m a huge advocate of being outside as much as possible, but even I had to resort to cartoons here and there. I’m not saying down time isn’t good sometimes- it’s nice to relax and do nothing when the mood strikes, but there has been a bit too much vegging out.

I’ve always wished and entertained the idea of living near a beach because the nature and imagination there is endless and beautiful. I follow @yoga_girl on Instagram and her little baby is living the life down there in Aruba. Constantly hanging out on the beach and enjoying all aspects of being outside. My poor lady has been begging to play outside, but the temperatures have been painful.

I wonder if I’m living in the right area of the world. If it weren’t for my family and friends, I wouldn’t be able to really think of a reason to stay here in this NYC suburb. Should I think about moving? But then we’d have to start over with jobs, friends, daycares, etc. It seems more work than it’s worth… I think.

I’m probably just lacking Vitamin D and sunshine and going a little stir crazy. I’m sure once Spring and Summer roll around, I’ll be fine. Plus, if we moved, I’d really miss seeing the Fall… I think it’s just mom guilt kicking in and feeling like I can’t provide enough resources for my toddler to really explore. But I’m trying my best. Has anyone been struggling this winter too??

❤️ ☀️

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Enlighten me on Today’s Current Events…

Not trying to make this post political and I only welcome mature/healthy debate and comments, but I legitimately have a couple of questions regarding this country’s current events. I admit I do not have much knowledge about guns, but I do have a Master’s degree in Forensic Psychology and know that there are a multitude of mental health issues in this country.  I also understand people’s  wants to own guns for both sport and protection (my mom and brother were held at gun point in our home several years ago so I understand wanting protection).

My question is regarding the type of gun used in the most recent shooting (and from my understanding, the gun of choice in other mass shootings?).  Again, let me reiterate that I don’t know much about guns so this is just my uneducated opinion…  I think when people are advocating for stricter gun laws,  the majority of them do not mean to completely abolished all rights to own a gun.  I think most people understand guns are useful for protection and that many people enjoy them safely for hobby.  My question is what is so wrong with advocating for stricter gun laws? Do people really believe that AR-15’s should be accessible for every day use, especially when it is fairly easy for mentally ill people to access weapons at this current point in time?  Can we not agree that maybe it should be a little more difficult to obtain guns? Why not make the process harder? Not saying you can’t still own a gun or still enjoy the sport, but why not make the gun-attaining process a little more lengthy?

Why are people opposed to making AR-15’s  and weapons of that sort illegal for every day use (unless used for law enforcement, military, etc.)  if they are so dangerous and continuously show up in these mass murders?  Don’t get me wrong- I also know the problem lies with the mental illness of those firing the gun and the need to work on the resources for the mentally ill, but until that has become more stable and while many mentally ill people continue to live without the appropriate help they need, why would it be such a bad thing for stricter gun laws at this current point in time? Yes, people may have to go through a more thorough testing process and investigation before owning a gun, but aren’t the lives of innocent people more important than a delayed process to own a gun?

On the flip side, if there are people who are completely against gun ownership of any kind, is it fair to ask people who are passionate about gun culture to give up their hobby when they are stable adults? Should a couple of “nutcases” ruin the fun for everyone? Perhaps stricter gun control (but not totally abolishing guns) would weed out the people who are not competent or fit to own weapons while still allowing others to enjoy their hobby and protect their homes.

Again, I’m just asking these questions out of my own curiosity and not to point fingers at any one group of people. I do lean more to the “left”, but I’m always looking to expand my horizons and see how all types of people see the world.

I’m just hoping one day we can start to work toward a better future for this country and mankind. No one should be afraid to bring his or her child to school. Let’s start rebuilding our future today…

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Ok…for real…How?!

Ok, I must ask an extremely important question that has been weighing on my mind for several months and driving me crazy…

how on earth do you pay your credit card debt off if you have no money to pay said credit card debt off????

I recently just started part-time work in order to be home with my daughter more and so far, I’m loving it. I’m much less stressed and I feel refreshed each work week after a long, relaxing (kinda) weekend. But I’m trying to educate myself and do research on how to make ends meet on a much lower salary and every article I read is like…

duh… just pay your credit cards off. 

Ok, cute idea. Totally get it: start debt free to have less monthly bills and a better grasp on your finances. But how exactly are you all doing it??

Should I be using most of my savings to pay said debt off? Seems like an easy fix, except when I have no emergency funds, that seems like a scary solution.

I’ve cut down on so many things- Cut a day of daycare out, reduced cable bill, switched phone companies, cook more in bulk, clipped coupons, etc…

… but still thousands away from being debt free…

I hate the idea that all of this interest is being paid from my pocket.

So PLEASE. 

Tell me your ways…!!!

 

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Spread the Word!

It’s that time of year…

…the time to give to others who are less fortunate. Well, that should be every time of year, but you catch my drift.

The doctors at my new job decided to help People to People and “adopt a family” this year. I wasn’t too sure what that meant or what to except when I went to People to People on my lunch break last week.

I walked in and there were huge binders full of letters from almost 800 families explaining why they need help, their financial woes, and most of all, how they wish they could afford holiday gifts for their children. Each letter had a wish list attached from all the children whose parents could not provide them their wants (dolls, legos, etc.) and their needs (beds, underwear, coats).

As I sat there sobbing, I couldn’t figure out how I was supposed to choose only one family and I kept wishing I was rich enough to “adopt” them all.

Because that is obviously not a reality, I figure the best thing I can do is spread the word to have others hopefully go check out their local People to People (or another similar organization).

My daughter and I gathered some clothes for our “adopted family” on Thanksgiving morning and I knew right then and there that this would be our yearly tradition…

I hope you can do the same…

😊

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Way Too Early For This…

Yes, ok…I know it’s super early for this, but I had to share my daughter’s Holiday pictures that I took… in love ❤️

Between ordering then, having them shipped, writing them all out, etc, I figured it’s not too early for anything! Haha…

hope you enjoy and would love to see everyone else’s!

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Finally Fall 🍁🍂

It’s finally starting to feel like Autumn up here in New York! Don’t get me wrong, I love the summer, but there’s just so much magic in fall. It always seems like a period of rebirth, in my opinion. We can shed the old to make way for the new!

That being said, I officially starting my journey today as a part-time working mom! I’ve been working full-time for years and entirely since my daughter was born almost a year and a half ago. Sometimes, I get nervous because the money is going to be scarce, but beautiful days like today remind me that there are so many amazing things in life that are completely free. 

Spending time in nature, jumping in leaves, and looking at the amazing October leaves are all I need… Sometimes I just need that reminder in life.

I’m not sure what it is like in other parts of the country/world, but here in the Northeast, everyone is always rushed. Crazy rush hour drivers risking their lives to make it in to a job they hate, miserable people waiting in line at the grocery store because they have somewhere better to be, and people working themselves into hysteria.

I’m over it. 

Going to start living more the way Autumn lives… basking in the sun with a cool breeze, not worried to let things go…

🍁🎃🍂✌️

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Can’t Believe It’s Happening!

Sorry for the writing hiatus. Between my brother moving to Colorado, going to Florida to celebrate my 30th birthday, and all the fall activities in full swing, it has been hard to find time to sit down and write.

If you aren’t familiar with my blog or the last few posts, I’ll do a quick recap. Basically, I am a full-time working mom who lives in New York who just wants to spend more time with my daughter (mom guilt to the max). Of course other things are thrown in like travel, wine, and the beach haha.

With that being said, I have good news… I just got asked to start a new job in two weeks that is part-time!!!  I’ll only be working 3 days a week so I will get to be home more with my 17 month old!! Soooo excited.

But…. also nervous.

I have the normal butterfly jitters about telling my current position tomorrow that I’m giving them 2 weeks notice. It’s never fun, even when I’m so excited about the new journey to come. But such is life and it must be done…

I’m mostly nervous about the money situation. I will obviously be making less because of the cut in hours. Life and bills will still be doable, but it will be tight. So many great bloggers have offered advice on how to cut down on spending and I’m fully ready to try all those amazing things, but it is still nerve wracking. I just keep thinking, “What if it doesn’t work?”, “What if my decision sends us to the poorhouse?”.

I’m fully aware this is probably a bit dramatic and an over exaggeration, but I’m still shaking in my boots. I’m hoping I’m doing the right thing…

How do others handle such huge transitions in life? Were you nervous beforehand and felt like you were making the wrong decision? Any advice for a little side hustle?

Looking forward to hearing 🙂

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My Brother is Moving Tomorrow…

Sad day. Very sad day.

We had a goodbye dinner tonight to wish my brother well as he and his girlfriend prepare to move to Colorado tomorrow (we live in New York). They are super outdoorsy and love hiking and want to get some amazing experiences in before they settle down. I get it. I would do the same if I were in his shoes. It doesn’t make it easier though.

He’s 5 years younger than me. My only sibling. We had a great childhood together. We spent most of our time on the beach. If not at the beach, we were playing catch outside with a baseball.

We would fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but at other times, we would gang up against my parents when they were being “annoying”.

We used to have a “night club” where we would sing songs and play with toys in our bedroom after out parents told us it was time to go to sleep. We had to share a bedroom until I was 9. I hated it then. Not so much now.

He will probably move back home eventually (at least I hope). His girlfriend says if they get married and have kids, they will definitely come back to be close to family. But what if they love it there? 

The hardest part is that my daughter’s favorite uncle is moving away. One of her role models. She might grow up not even remembering who he is (she’s only 15 months right now).

Leaving dinner tonight, my grandma sobbed as she said goodbye to her grandson. The 5th grandkid out of eleven. I couldn’t watch her cry. I had to walk away.

I’ve always been the tough one in the family. The rock. The stable one. The one people lean on in hard times. The unshaken one. I don’t know if that will be me tomorrow. 

I’m sorry for the Debbie downer post. I’m usually optimistic and happy, but it’s really hard to be that right now. I know it’s good for him. I know he’ll be happy and have the time of his life. I certainly know I’m jealous of all the mountains he will climb. I know all of these things.

I just don’t want my daughter to have to say goodbye tomorrow. That’s what’s killing me.

… but as always, I will trek on. And I will hope and wish every day for his return.

 

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Don’t Roll your Eyes at me! (The story of how I was just Mom-shamed)!

So just a quick background for those of you who haven’t read my previous threads…

I lost about 70 pounds a few years ago (yay)! I went from drinking and eating way too much to running a full marathon. I watched Doctor Oz religiously every day and learned about how to literally treat my body like a temple. I’ve grown to absolutely love nutrition and health (I may even want to go back to school for it… but that’s for a later post). It’s a true passion of mine.

So in the midst of this adventure, I naturally started to steer myself toward organic foods, natural cleaning products, and natural makeups/cosmetics. In my opinion, I think cutting out these chemicals as much as possible in the things that we consume/apply every day will hopefully add up and make us feel better and avoid disease in the long run.

Side note: Please purchase this book if you are also interested in healthy living and how the small things add up in the end. It features my favorite guy and is truly a life saver 😎

Anyway, now like I said, I love healthy living, but I’m also a proud consumer of potatoes and beer 🍻 🥔. I love my wine and eating out with my friends. It’s not like I have to eat healthy all the time.

However

When I go to the supermarket, I definitely try to get as many things all natural and organic as I can.

Yes, I could save money on less expensive items- I know that and I will switch if I financially need to. Yes, I know that the whole organic thing could be a scam and over exaggeration. I also am aware that you can eat healthy, avoid chemicals, the whole 9 yards and die anyway…

But It’s what I like and enjoy.

Anyway, to my point.

I had just put all my items on the conveyor belt at the supermarket the other day (yes, the majority were healthy) and a mom of four adorable girls behind me starts rolling her eyes and sighing while staring right at my 15 month old daughter in the front of the cart.

She looks directly at my daughter and in a “mocking voice” speaks right to her as if I wasn’t there and says, “Oh, you have one of those healthy, good moms who actually cares about her kids. One of those moms who thinks buying organic foods will buy your love”.

Like, I don’t even know what that means.

She giggled at the end of the sentence and winked as if that was to excuse her rude behavior.

I’m not sitting there rolling my eyes about the coke and doughnuts she bought her kids. (Just kinda jealous about the Coke).

My whole point is: STOP THE SHAMING.

In every way.

We are all going to make different decisions. Enjoy different things. Do things in completely opposite ways.

But can we please start appreciating these differences?

Accept and appreciate the differences OR mind your own beeswax 😘😃