I’m a full-time working mom. I’m an Office Manager of a very upscale dental office. I’m great with numbers, insurance claims, and calming people down about the doom that is their impending root canal.
Unfortunately, while I like what I do, I don’t want to be doing it (I’m working on becoming a part-time or all-the-time Stay at Home Mom).
I always thought being a mom, especially one that could stay home and raise her children full-time, was the biggest definition of success.
That’s why it caught me off guard when one of the doctors at my job told me if I didn’t choose to go back to work after maternity leave, I wouldn’t be contributing to society.
Um … what? Did this mom of 3 just say that out loud?
I didn’t have a chance to rebut because the office was busier than Grand Central Station.
My mom was a stay at home mom. Not by choice, but because she was permanently disabled after a picnic table was thrown at her by a mentally disabled patient at her job.
She loved her job. She wanted to work. She didn’t want to get hurt.
Yet, it was a great blessing in disguise. She was my Girl Scout leader and brought us all camping in the woods. She was at every one of my volleyball games. She spent the summers with my brother and I at the beach.
She did MORE than contribute to society. She was there to raise two kick ass children. Two children who are loving and caring and empathetic. Two children who donate their time and money to charitable causes because we were taught that helping others is the right thing to do.
Success and “contributing to society” does not mean being a doctor (or dentist). Success does not mean being a millionaire. Success (to some) doesn’t even mean being a parent. Success is different to everyone.
So if I decide to give up my career to be with my daughter, I feel in my heart that what I’m doing goes far deeper than selling my soul to the 9-5 grind.
Good job to all the working moms… Applause to all the stay at home moms… Good job to all the non-parents…
No matter how you spend YOUR time, spend it the way you want…
and not how society wants you to spend it…