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My Brother is Moving Tomorrow…

Sad day. Very sad day.

We had a goodbye dinner tonight to wish my brother well as he and his girlfriend prepare to move to Colorado tomorrow (we live in New York). They are super outdoorsy and love hiking and want to get some amazing experiences in before they settle down. I get it. I would do the same if I were in his shoes. It doesn’t make it easier though.

He’s 5 years younger than me. My only sibling. We had a great childhood together. We spent most of our time on the beach. If not at the beach, we were playing catch outside with a baseball.

We would fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but at other times, we would gang up against my parents when they were being “annoying”.

We used to have a “night club” where we would sing songs and play with toys in our bedroom after out parents told us it was time to go to sleep. We had to share a bedroom until I was 9. I hated it then. Not so much now.

He will probably move back home eventually (at least I hope). His girlfriend says if they get married and have kids, they will definitely come back to be close to family. But what if they love it there? 

The hardest part is that my daughter’s favorite uncle is moving away. One of her role models. She might grow up not even remembering who he is (she’s only 15 months right now).

Leaving dinner tonight, my grandma sobbed as she said goodbye to her grandson. The 5th grandkid out of eleven. I couldn’t watch her cry. I had to walk away.

I’ve always been the tough one in the family. The rock. The stable one. The one people lean on in hard times. The unshaken one. I don’t know if that will be me tomorrow. 

I’m sorry for the Debbie downer post. I’m usually optimistic and happy, but it’s really hard to be that right now. I know it’s good for him. I know he’ll be happy and have the time of his life. I certainly know I’m jealous of all the mountains he will climb. I know all of these things.

I just don’t want my daughter to have to say goodbye tomorrow. That’s what’s killing me.

… but as always, I will trek on. And I will hope and wish every day for his return.

 

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Don’t Roll your Eyes at me! (The story of how I was just Mom-shamed)!

So just a quick background for those of you who haven’t read my previous threads…

I lost about 70 pounds a few years ago (yay)! I went from drinking and eating way too much to running a full marathon. I watched Doctor Oz religiously every day and learned about how to literally treat my body like a temple. I’ve grown to absolutely love nutrition and health (I may even want to go back to school for it… but that’s for a later post). It’s a true passion of mine.

So in the midst of this adventure, I naturally started to steer myself toward organic foods, natural cleaning products, and natural makeups/cosmetics. In my opinion, I think cutting out these chemicals as much as possible in the things that we consume/apply every day will hopefully add up and make us feel better and avoid disease in the long run.

Side note: Please purchase this book if you are also interested in healthy living and how the small things add up in the end. It features my favorite guy and is truly a life saver 😎

Anyway, now like I said, I love healthy living, but I’m also a proud consumer of potatoes and beer 🍻 🥔. I love my wine and eating out with my friends. It’s not like I have to eat healthy all the time.

However

When I go to the supermarket, I definitely try to get as many things all natural and organic as I can.

Yes, I could save money on less expensive items- I know that and I will switch if I financially need to. Yes, I know that the whole organic thing could be a scam and over exaggeration. I also am aware that you can eat healthy, avoid chemicals, the whole 9 yards and die anyway…

But It’s what I like and enjoy.

Anyway, to my point.

I had just put all my items on the conveyor belt at the supermarket the other day (yes, the majority were healthy) and a mom of four adorable girls behind me starts rolling her eyes and sighing while staring right at my 15 month old daughter in the front of the cart.

She looks directly at my daughter and in a “mocking voice” speaks right to her as if I wasn’t there and says, “Oh, you have one of those healthy, good moms who actually cares about her kids. One of those moms who thinks buying organic foods will buy your love”.

Like, I don’t even know what that means.

She giggled at the end of the sentence and winked as if that was to excuse her rude behavior.

I’m not sitting there rolling my eyes about the coke and doughnuts she bought her kids. (Just kinda jealous about the Coke).

My whole point is: STOP THE SHAMING.

In every way.

We are all going to make different decisions. Enjoy different things. Do things in completely opposite ways.

But can we please start appreciating these differences?

Accept and appreciate the differences OR mind your own beeswax 😘😃

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How Did you All do it???

Within the next month or two, I hope to…no…I WILL transition from a full-time working mom to a part-time or full-time stay at home mom.

I’ve never really been a “career woman”, but have always had to work because of bills. You know how it goes.

I’ve had an especially hard time because I used to be a nanny and I feel like I’ve raised those 3 children more than my own daughter. I hate that I have to drag her out of the house every morning, both of us exhausted, just to drop her off to strangers. Don’t get me wrong, I really like the daycare, but.. it’s not… ME.

So anyway, I’m currently emotionally and financially trying to plan for the change and I need advice!! What are ways to save on bills, save money, etc.? Keep in mind, our finances will be TIGHT on one income so I don’t care how minute/silly the advice may seem.

I’m excited about this journey and change, but I need all the help I can get 🙂

Also, this book has helped a lot for anyone else in the same boat!

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My “Almost Tuscan” homemade Arrabiata Sauce

My vegetable garden is certainly bountiful this year! I’m picking about 15 tomatoes a day! So obviously I need to do something with all the said tomatoes… 🍅

After visiting Tuscany two years ago and getting private cooking lessons with Italian chefs, I figured I would try their Arrabiata recipe at home. What a win! 🌶

So I’m here to share the wealth with everyone.

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The Tomatoes 

Of course, if you have homegrown tomatoes, that would be best, but no worries if not. Go to the store and purchase fresh Roma (plum) tomatoes or you can even buy them in a can!

The Spice

The heat is what gives the arrabiata sauce it’s personality. After all, arrabita literally means “angry”. If you want to be as authentic as possible, purchase Italian Calabrian peppers. These may be hard to find so if worst comes to worse, you can just use crushed red pepper (I also love adding cherry peppers-they are my favorite)!

Keep in mind, if spicy food is not your thing, you can leave the peppers out and just make a regular marinara sauce that will be equally as amazing!

The Rest

Make sure you also have garlic (fresh is best), sea salt, sugar, red wine, basil, and rosemary. Again, fresh is best when it comes to the herbs, but you can use dried basil and rosemary if you don’t have any fresh available!

Get ready to cook

Step 1- Cut/ purée the tomatoes 

First, you are going to want to crush or purée the tomatoes. If you want a chunkier sauce, you can keep the skin on and cut/crush them into little chunks. If you want a smoother sauce, you can skin them and/or purée them using a food processor.

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Step 2- Sauté the peppers and garlic

Next, put a thin layer of olive oil at the bottom of your pot and sauté the peppers, garlic and some sea salt for about 5 minutes. (Keep in mind, I use low heat the entire time because cooking sauce is an art and takes time haha. Feel free to cook on medium if you are in a rush)!

Step 3- Add the tomatoes, spices, and cook!

Pour the tomatoes into the pot and add a cup of red wine, a tablespoon of sugar (to cut the acidity of the tomatoes), more salt, basil, and some rosemary. You can also add in black pepper, onion, and oregano to taste if that’s what you like, but keep in mind, the chefs didn’t use those ingredients. I like to let the sauce cook for hours in order to allow all the herbs and flavors to mix together. Again, if you don’t have that much time, turn up the heat a bit- it will still come out amazing!

And there you have it.. the “Almost Tuscan” Arrabiata sauce by Amanda… 🍝

Mangia!

Also, for more awesome Italian recipes, this cookbook is amazing!

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Appreciate the Sky this Weekend!!

Take time out of the hectic craziness that is your life for just five minutes this weekend and appreciate how beautiful the sky is..

I guarantee it will help relax you!

To all the moms and dads… regardless if you are working moms, stay at home moms, 80 hour per week dads…you are all doing such a great job!

The sky will give you five minutes of zen that you deserve …

Then get back to cleaning that mess!!

🙂

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Any other moms (or dads) out there lose a ton of weight??

So most of my life I was lean and athletic. I was All-State, MVP, etc of my sports teams in high school and college. I love the competition and the feeling of adrenaline that playing sports/working out gives me. I was so in shape, I could have been G.I. Jane…

The second half of college and the year following college, I completely fell off the wagon. I was living with my boyfriend who was 10 years older than me and a handful of his frat boy-like friends (that man is my husband now lol).

Every night was another party, drinking, and drunk snacking on Slim Jims.

Many vodka and cranberries later, I was a mess. Large, unhealthy, out of control, and extremely insecure.

After months of “I’ll work out tomorrow”, I finally put my sneakers on and began working out and eating right. Long days of grueling workouts, boring salads, and religiously watching Doctor Oz led to me losing 70 pounds! I even ran a full marathon after months of training.

I felt on top of the world. More energy than a toddler playing with finger paint, stronger than I’ve ever been before-I was back!

and now…

I just don’t care.

I’ve put on baby weight with my daughter, but lost some of it so I’m not huge- I’m just … normal.

I work out like 3 times a month and walk here and there.

Most of the food I eat is healthy and organic, but there is still crap sprinkled in on occasion.

While I would like to fit back into my old jeans, I just don’t have any motivation to work my ass off like I did before. I’m not happy with my body, but I’m not too unhappy with it either.. 

Every day I think of how awesome I felt during my weight loss journey and how I want to get back there, but… whatever… too much work…

Please tell me I’m not alone! Anyone else lose motivation entirely? How in the hell did you get it back?

 Check out this book from the man that helped me lose the weight 🙂

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Stay at Home Mom’s Don’t Contribute to Society??

I’m a full-time working mom. I’m an Office Manager of a very upscale dental office. I’m great with numbers, insurance claims, and calming people down about the doom that is their impending root canal.

Unfortunately, while I like what I do, I don’t want to be doing it (I’m working on becoming a part-time or all-the-time Stay at Home Mom).

I always thought being a mom, especially one that could stay home and raise her children full-time, was the biggest definition of success.

That’s why it caught me off guard when one of the doctors at my job told me if I didn’t choose to go back to work after maternity leave, I wouldn’t be contributing to society.

Um … what? Did this mom of 3 just say that out loud?

I didn’t have a chance to rebut because the office was busier than Grand Central Station.

My mom was a stay at home mom. Not by choice, but because she was permanently disabled after a picnic table was thrown at her by a mentally disabled patient at her job.

She loved her job. She wanted to work. She didn’t want to get hurt.

Yet, it was a great blessing in disguise. She was my Girl Scout leader and brought us all camping in the woods. She was at every one of my volleyball games. She spent the summers with my brother and I at the beach.

She did MORE than contribute to society. She was there to raise two kick ass children. Two children who are loving and caring and empathetic. Two children who donate their time and money to charitable causes because we were taught that helping others is the right thing to do.

Success and “contributing to society” does not mean being a doctor (or dentist). Success does not mean being a millionaire. Success (to some) doesn’t even mean being a parent. Success is different to everyone.

So if I decide to give up my career to be with my daughter, I feel in my heart that what I’m doing goes far deeper than selling my soul to the 9-5 grind.

Good job to all the working moms… Applause to all the stay at home moms… Good job to all the non-parents…

No matter how you spend YOUR time, spend it the way you want…

and not how society wants you to spend it…

For more on Stay at home moms, click the link and purchase this awesome book!!…

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Moana’s Grandma

Let me tell you, Moana’s Grandmother is my spirit animal…  🌊

As silly as it is, is it weird I want to live more like her? Lol. Just constantly being in touch with nature and just going with the flow…

My daughter woke up way early today and insisted we go outside to play by 6am (I love that she loves being outside, but we are still recovering from sickness so a little sleep would have been preferable). Begrudgingly, I put my flip flops on, made my coffee and brought her out. Then, I immediately looked up to the sky and saw a jaw dropping sunrise.

Suddenly, I thought, “I have to wake up and see the sunrise every day!”.

My daughter was dancing in the sunlight (for all of 15 minutes before she wanted to go back to sleep 😂). It was such a great start to the day.

Sometimes, you just have to remember to look at the sunrise (or sunset if that’s more your thing) and it instantly grounds you. It makes you feel unstoppable yet so minute and unimportant at the same time. Not to mention, it sets an awesome tone for the rest of the day.

So if any of you are having a tough morning, day, week, or year, take a minute to look into nature. Be “the village crazy lady” and dance with the waves here and there.

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Rough Weekend…

Summer sickness?? What is this nonsense?! 😷☀️

Fourth ear infection for my 15 month old and a sinus infection for me.

I can’t remember the last time I was sick during the summer. Missed out on fun summer plans this weekend which was a bummer, but I got to snuggle with my little lady so it was secretly a win.

I’ve been having a rough month or 2. I’m feeling the guilt of having to work a new, full-time job and leaving my daughter in daycare more than ever. My husband and I wake up early in the morning, rush out the door, work all day, and then rush home. I feel like we are constantly on the go and we don’t get to just enjoy each other anymore.

I think the toughest part for me is that I used to be a full-time nanny so I feel like I’ve raised other children more than my own. It’s a sucky feeling.

So the doctor told me yesterday that she may need to get tubes put in her ears if the ear infections keep coming. He also said daycare is most likely the culprit.

I know daycare has done wonders for her social skills and learning, but I just wish I could have her go one or two days instead of all the time.

Am I putting too much pressure on myself? How are you working moms handling the guilt and constant rush-like schedule? Do you stay at home moms wish the kids were in daycare?

Any input and chatter would be fun so we can see both sides!

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Introduction on How to do Everything 😉

Welcome to my blog, everyone!

This is it. This is the place where us moms (and dads too- we don’t discriminate!) come together to discuss how in the actual Hell we are supposed to do everything.

Like literally everything. 🍷

My daughter is 15 months old and she is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that I wish I could spend much more time being with her than in the office… ✏️

Unfortunately , the office is the place that funds the things I want to do with my daughter. 💰

So how are we supposed to live fulfilling lives filled with love and travel and play when we are stuck in the 9-5 grind? When the house needs to be cleaned and dinners cooked? When the little one is sick with her 738th ear infection?

Well, I’m not too sure yet… 😯

…but I’m determined to figure it out. Each day, little by little, I will get closer to my goal of “doing it all”, while not going insane.

This blog is for anyone who wants to play more and work less. Love more and worry less. Travel more and stagnate less.

It’s possible…

✌️